People will say!

 



What people say about you is their business, not yours. – Darshan Singh

What will he say or what will they think if I do this? This thinking is one of the biggest obstacles in the path of success. We often change our behaviors and way of doing things in front of others. We are different when we are alone and behave differently when others are around. We are always conscious of our environment and surroundings. We change our way of doing things when someone is around.

We become conscious about other’s opinions about us. Why is this case? Do we really need validation about our work from others? Do we really need to change our thinking and manner of doing things when people are around? No, it is not worth it. You’ve got to behave in a similar fashion whether someone is there or not. If you pay attention to others, then you can’t really concentrate on what you are doing.

You can’t simply change your behavior and personality on the review of others. This is who you are, and you should stay the same. People will speak, they have a mouth and they will use it. But you don’t need to pay attention towards that. It is something that they believe in and doesn’t necessarily mean that you agree or disagree to that. Everyone has an opinion and you must never get affected from it.

Most people these days don’t follow their passions as they are always wary of the fact that others will have negative opinions about it. So what? Be the way it is. Nobody’s opinions must affect you until and unless your actions are causing them harm. If you are doing something for you and no one has stakes in that, you are good to go. There is no need to get affected from criticism or opinions of people.

When you do things, everyone will come up to you and will give you suggestions. If your research is strong enough then you can’t be derailed by false input from others. You know what you are doing, and you’ve got to back yourself up for success. Most people will give you suggestions without experience in that field. So, you never know whether the person giving you the advice has practiced that thing in the past or not. And even if the person has an experience in that thing, it doesn’t mean you can’t do better.

So, if you have decided to pursue something in life and you are confident enough about it then other’s opinion shouldn’t matter. It is your choice and path and you must reach your destination with your hard work and perseverance without getting affect by what others have to say.

Love and power to you

Darshan

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