Let them Choose!

 



When the kids are young, parents or guardians are responsible to take decisions on their behalf. As parents, we know what’s best for our kids and we try to take decisions for them that will help them become a good person in life. It is a human tendency to mold our kids into what we want them to be or someone into what we couldn’t become or achieve in our life.

Sometimes parents put excessive burden on their kids to develop into someone they want and not what they actually want to be. This is one of the major issues prevalent today that causes huge problems to kids who are not allowed to take decision themselves. When parents take their kid’s decisions then their kids can feel unworthy in the later stages of life. They will not have the confidence and courage to take decisions in their life. They will always depend on their parents for suggestions and recommendation. Taking suggestions from your parents is not a bad thing but asking them every time you do anything is a recipe of failure.

This is something that parents need to realize and give a free hand to their kids to take their own decisions and back them even if their decisions prove wrong. When kids make mistakes, make them learn from their errors and not look to interfere in their decision making in future. Make your kids capable of taking their career, hobby decisions on their own. One must always be there to guide his/her kids, but the final choice must be left to your kids. I think from the age of 12 or 13, kids are mature enough to choose what they want in terms of study, games and friends. You can help them make selections, but the final decision should be left upon them.

This will make your kids better at choosing between different things and their maturity level will go up as well. If they start making decisions early in life, then even difficult times won’t seem daunting enough to them. The habit of interfering in your kid’s decision will make them reliant on others. It not only happens in the case pf parents and kids but also in other relations. You must allow your husband and wife to take their own decisions. Your spouse is a grown up and can definitely take as equally a good decision as you.

I have seen this situation occurring in siblings where in a family, the head or the eldest sibling takes decisions on behalf of their younger ones. This is a dangerous trend and often ends up in conflicts. Whether it is your parents or kids or siblings or spouse, give everyone the freedom in having their own choices and not interfering in their decision making.

If you really love someone and want to see that person doing well in life, then stop taking decisions for them and give them space and right to take their own decisions.

Love and power to you

Darshan  

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