Don’t discourage your Kids!

This is what most people have been doing to their family, especially kids. Implanting disbelief in them and then expecting great things to happen. One of my friends was critical about his son’s studies. He was worried that his son wouldn’t score good in the upcoming final exams of fifth grade. His son is a great cricketer and plays for local district. I have seen the never-ending passion for cricket in his son’s eyes.

We also know that it is not easy to make a cut in the senior Indian cricket team as millions of players every year fight for that slot. But it has been proven in the past that hard work and dedication can make it possible. My friend’s son had tremendous belief and skill level to make it to the top. But his father was more critical about his studies, so he stated implanting disbelief in his son’s mind.

He started discouraging and demotivating him about the chances for him getting to the top. He constantly told him to focus more on studies and leave cricket citing false reason that cricket will have narrower scope in future. Slowly and steadily these things started creeping in his son’s mind and he started failing miserably at the cricket academy and in competitive matches. I met his kid recently and he was full of doubts and disbelief. His cricket career was over mentally, and he was also not able to focus on his studies as well.

This is the story of millions of kids across our country. This is how many parents infuse disbelief in their kid’s mind making them quit what they think might not be good for them. These kinds of parents impose their way of thinking and their limited experience to control their kid’s career paths.

You must have seen parents making fun of their kids and often discounting them for seeing big dreams. If a kid says that he wants to land on mars one day, then most parents will laugh this out or tell their kid to think of a more practical and achievable goal. This is where the disbelief enters kid’s mind and they stop believing in their goals and themselves.

Kids are full of ambition and dreams. You must never dishearten them by explaining the daunting nature of their goals. Instead you must support them and their ideas and tell them to keep working on them. The confidence infused in kids at a young age will go a long way. They will stay focused on their goals and will work hard to achieve them.

The habit of discounting other’s dreams and discouraging them from pursuing great goals is not only limited to parents and their kids. As a sibling, as a friend you must always motivate people to keep chasing their dreams and not look back.

Love and power to you

Darshan