Being self-centered

 

                            

‘Being self-centered is not being selfish.’ – Darshan Singh

If you want to gain success, you got to be self-centered. Being self-centered is generally termed as selfish and in a negative frame. But its not the way how it should be portrayed. The other side should also be explored and understood. Being self-centered is not bad at all.

When a person is chasing a goal, generally a bigger one, then he/she is naturally being self-centered. He/she sacrifices a lot of things in pursuit to achieve his/her goals. When you are not self-centered, you can’t walk on a straight line. You have many distractions that can derail you from the path of your destiny.

‘Preoccupied with oneself and one’s affairs’ is the dictionary definition of being self-centered. I fail to understand that why people use it as a negative expression. If you are occupied with yourself and are only concentrated in your affairs is part of being disciplined and focused.

You can become successful if you are engrossed only in your goal achieving and are not sidetracked by the external forces. For this to happen, you’ve got be self-centered. You can’t cheat yourself with the sacrifices you need to make to become successful.

You need to let go a lot of things in life. You can’t just always go to every party that your friends throw. You can’t be attending every important celebration with your family. Because when you are self-centered, you sacrifice some of this stuff and not even regret it. Because you are always engaged in reaching a certain goal.

You can’t afford to have distractions in your life when you are focused on achieving a goal. You ought to be self-centered in your approach towards life, work and fun. I am not telling you to ignore your friends and family, but you’ve got to let go certain moments and events if you really want to reach your destination. People often talk about the sacrifices that people make to become successful. Becoming self-centered is one of those sacrifices.

Love and power to you

Darshan